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Don’t lean on stereotypes as an explanation

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One thing not known to me was why some people threw stereotyped images back at anyone when their feathers got ruffled?

Recently, the protest of the killing of black men came under fire by the police union in Cleveland, Ohio. several football players either put their hands up during a game and some fans were seen wearing shirts with “I can’t breathe” on it.

In spite of the NFL not finding fault with the protest, they along with Anthony Hawkins issued statements that they were well within their rights under the First Amendment and the legue rule book to protest.

Here’s where the appalling part of the article came in. The head of the police union said that the players should’ve stuck to what they did on the field and not try interpreting the law.

They weren’t interpreting anything, they were expressing themselves over all the killings of black men. Who said one had to know everything in order to interpret the law? Even the Supreme Court while well versed in the law couldn’t interpret without reviewing prior cases.  This blogger doesn’t claim to know all about the law herself so why throw an implied stereotype of a ‘dumb jock’ in when commenting because some feelings were rubbed the wrong way?

This reminded me of an incident that occurred during my childhood. One of the parents made a crass comment about my inability to rear children. Being eleven years old, it wasn’t expected of me to know that anyway. Doctor Spock’s book wasn’t on their bookshelves either. They did what came naturally. Even with the third gathering, both parents took their children home to face punishment for their behavior that night, which was predicted by me.

Being physically challenged, myself was a double whammy because people well known to me have thrown stereotypical things other than the above in my face too. In spite of my not being able to drive a car, the fixed income status preented paying for insurance and upkeep too. Being able to still cook and take care of myself on a daily basis without the aid of home healthcare or physical therapy was a blessing.

Other than the daily trips to and from the doctor, home healthcare only kept the client and their house clean. They didn’t pick up things like paperwork lying around. Most of the professional cleaning services won’t pick up personal paperwork either.

My sitiuation with writing was in knowing about plagiarism and  copyright law. Luckily, my experience with them have been limited because of my never being sued for either. The worse thing that occurred was having the pictures used on my blogs removed even though credit was given to who took them underneath.

As stated in my Examiner article, athletes in any sport were always looking for a back up plan just in case they didn’t make it as a professional athlete. Many of the boys in the elementary, junor high and high school level had to make passing grades to play sports. Many were hoping to sign letters of intent to play for their college of choice and get scholarships to them. Good grades helped here too. The stereotype of ‘dumb jock’ didn’t apply even if feelings were ruffled by the protest.



Black amnesia: Lessons of Rodney King lost in Ferguson

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This had to end somehow.

Originally posted on theGrio:

Has nothing been learned since April 29, 1992?

That was the date in which mayhem erupted in Los Angeles after a jury exonerated four police officers for beating Rodney King during a traffic stop. The memory of incident also hangs like a shroud over Ferguson, Missouri, where a grand jury declined to indict Officer Darren Wilson, who shot and killed Michael Brown.

The mayhem that has erupted in the small town can’t be justified by frustration and anger with the decision – unrest has been roiling Ferguson since the early days of the incident. In the intervening years since the Rodney King protests led to dozens of deaths and about $1 billion in property damage, the biggest takeaway should have been that violence and looting are never an acceptable response to injustice.

To be fair, Missouri’s authorities erred by waiting until after nightfall to announce a decision they surely understood…

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Bill Cosby’s Lawyer: It’s Time for ‘Media Vilification’ to Stop

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I agree with Bill Cosby’s lawyer. This should stop!

Originally posted on Variety:

Bill Cosby’s high-profile lawyer released another statement late Friday refuting the numerous claims of sexual assault facing the comedian, calling the reports “increasingly ridiculous” and blaming the media for its “breakneck rush to run stories without any corroboration.”

“Over and over again, we have refuted these new unsubstantiated stories with documentary evidence, only to have a new uncorroborated story crop up out of the woodwork,” attorney Martin Singer said. “When will it end? It is long past time for this media vilification of Mr. Cosby to stop.”

On Friday, a woman told Philadelphia Magazine that while working as a secretary for former Hollywood talent agency Artists Agency Corp. in 1965, Cosby drugged and attempted to sexually assault her at a party.

She’s the eighth woman to make such a claim this week.

Cosby’s attorney called it “illogical” for people to come forward 30, 40 and 50 years after an alleged…

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The Fork in the road: Navigating the electronic highway

In the last few months, several changes came into my life that were profound.

So many things to learn

1. The laptop purchased in 2007 started showing its age. Windows XP went out of service in April of this year. My efforts at trying to keep my computer updated until the purchase of a new one could be aquired cost me more than the computer itself. When the smoke cleared, there were three companies vying to service my trusty laptop. Getting refunds were difficult, but not impossible, in spite of my knowing what services were purchased.  Because of those refunds, the balance on two cards were wittled down to managable or nohing at all. The last company couldn’t locate the person who tried to “fix” my problem  on August 4 of this year, so all my money was refunded.

2.  Income Solutions informed me on October 20 of this year that my mentor of almost six months was no longer with the company and that there was no reassigning taking place. If any help was needed to llet them know. Mom wanted me to get out of the program. The campaign they gave me to start wasn’t selling very well on line. The bad reviews made me scrap the plan and start over with something different. While i won’t say how I got out of paying that huge debt, I haven’t quit in advertising.

How to log in to the Income Solutions website

The world’s gotten smaller since computers emerged.

Now what, right? Well my mistake wasn’t found in the amount of money spent in self discovery, it was the people in my life itself trying to navigate uncharted territory for me. On Christmas 2012, my mother openly admitted she knew nothing about raising a child with special needs. It didn’t look like she or any other adult encountered by me knew how to guide me down life’s path after graduating from high school. They swore everything my mother told me was right. Only for her it was. Most of the time, like the information gained from my mother and father, a crucial piece of information was missing in what they knew or they chose the easy out and recomended some state program if they didn’t echo my mother’s words.

Here’s an example of a piece of the puzzle that was missing:

In order to work as a cleric for the city or on of the universities, one had to type a certain amount of words acurately, 60+. On a good day, my WPM was 20 unofficially. If the right side of my body was affected by Cerebral Palsy, It would be hard to type that amount of words using both hands. My mother and one of my vocational rehabilitation counselor’s did not know this.

That being said, if I were unable to do ‘normal’ things, there wouldn’t be the navigation on the electronic highway so late in life. Following Mom’s advice would’ve been easier too. Having a transportation problem was only the tip of the iceberg. Here’s what was known by me:

  1.  A lot of employers want the already trained to jump right in, not have someone they had to train.
  2. Someome with a college education was more apt to leave an employer for the bettr position with the higher pay.
  3. How was a person supposed to work in a situuation where the bathooms weren’t renovated for wheelchairs? The cashiering equipment was the same as used by Work Services in the mid 1990’s. It wasn’t about my being cocky.
  4. Most people that are around my time of life have raised families, moved to smaller homes and were looking toward retirement.
  5. Most people around my age had ailing in-laws they couldn’t care for financially and had to house in assisted living facilities or nursing homes too. My meger allowance from the government barely covered my expenses that’s why it’s so hard to “prop up” anyone else or try to start a  money making venture on line.

Turning ‘lookers’ into buyers

My accounts took a big hit so taking the holiday off wasn’t an option. It was to my advantage to see what could’ve been done to earn money to cover the next catastrophic emergency. It was enjoyable writing short pieces ad watching others repond to the posts on my blogs. Granted, writing articles and advertising weren’t my first employment options but at least my online presence was felt indirectly. My next task was to find a wy to make it start  paying off.

What Happens When You Go Viral: On Wanting to Give Up

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After reading this, ai wont give up or quit

Originally posted on Such Small Hands:

I recently found out that the hit count on my Relevant article back in June was over 1.6 million. The editor told me it was the second-biggest traffic day in the history of their website. That’s mind-boggling to me.

If you had asked me a year ago what I thought it would mean to have a piece get that much exposure, I would have assumed it would be my big break. That it would boost my blog, lead to freelance opportunities, help connect me to the right people. That it would be my open door into the world of professional writing and publishing. That it would bring me validation and satisfaction. It would reassure me that what I’m doing here isn’t pointless and that my story matters.

Do you want to know the truth?

It hasn’t done any of those things. For a few weeks I received a lot of…

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Barbie, Remixed: I (Really!) Can Be a Computer Engineer


Barbie was always a trend setter. She could do anything as the slogan went.

Originally posted on Casey Fiesler:

I am a PhD student in a computing department, so I guess it’s not surprising that my social media feeds have been full of outrage over Barbie’s “computer engineering” skills. The blog post that originally went viral appears to be sporadically down due to heavy traffic, but The Daily Dot also has a good summary of the problematic book titled Barbie: I Can Be a Computer Engineer. The problematic part is that, as far as I can tell, the steps for becoming a computer engineer if you’re Barbie are:

  1. Design a videogame.
  2. Get a boy to code it for you.
  3. Accidentally infect your computer with a virus.
  4. Get a boy to fix it for you.
  5. Take all the credit for these things yourself.

And the problem isn’t even that Barbie isn’t a “real” computer scientist because she isn’t coding. (I am one of those mostly-non-coding computer scientists myself, though now…

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Favorite summer time foods kept light

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Favorite summer time foods kept light

Now that summer was a few weeks away, it got too hot to cook. Who was the brave soul wanting to stand over a hot stove making dinner every night, even with the air conditioner going? For me, that was about as annoying as finding something to eat or having to cook without the air running.

Below was my list of five favorite summer time meals to make. One would think that someone would have to eat their food ‘at the ready“, or with girded loins like the Bible said:

Exodus 12:10-12

10 And ye shall let nothing of it remain until the morning; and that which remaineth of it until the morning ye shall burn with fire.
11 And thus shall ye eat it; with your loins girded, your shoes on your feet, and your staff in your hand; and ye shall eat it in haste: it is the Lord’s passover.

12 For I will pass through the land of Egypt this night, and will smite all the firstborn in the land of Egypt, both man and beast; and against all the gods of Egypt I will execute judgment: I am the Lord. (KJV)

Some people might have gotten a good laugh out of the above Biblical reference, that wasn’t the intent here. Because the weather was warmer, it was always a good idea to have food “made ready“ for whatever reason. Lighter foods were easier on the stomach if one were tired.

1. Salad Any kind of meat was good with this basic dish. Bagged salad or canned chicken and fish only needed draining. It was even better without meat. My mother ate lettuce and tomato one night with her favorite salad dressing. The only bad thing about salad whether bagged or fresh, once opened it had to have been eaten because it spoiled fast.

2. Vegetables This was my ‘go to’ when not wanting any starch. Sometimes using the above meat was good with this. With a class of ice tea, it kept one full. Any kind of pasta was great though. Once both were cooked, it was great eaten cold with a favorite beverage.

3. Asian My favorite was homemade stir fry. Two ounces of any kind of cooked meat or canned made a great meal with rice and one‘s favorite assortment of vegetables and soy sauce. Eggrolls were a great side too and sometimes the store bought variety made a great light late dinner.

4. Pita pockets These were just like Hot Pockets except that they weren’t hot. Stuffed with one’s favorite meat and veggie combination, it made a quick meal for on the go types during the summer. My mother bought me some pita bread and it was cut in half to make a pocket to stuff food in. My me and my friends made those one night and one said they rivaled the Burger King variety.

5. Panini’s My sandwiches were different from the store-bought variety in two ways they were made with healthy options and one got a whole sandwich. Even though the local Atlanta Bread made to die for paninis, one could’ve always afforded to buy them.


1. Pagoda Eggrolls

2   Hot Pockets

3.  Pita

4.  Chicken Panini and Potatoes

Looking to scripture for wisdom: Writer took indirect approach

Looking to Scripture for wisdom: Writer took indirect approach

On the job front, things were turning upward. This week, there were two different writing positions from different companies. Writer’s Access and Jobz For Writers wanted me to work for them. This had me on cloud nine because the last time something like this happened, there were three different positions, one being from my current employer.

How quickly the euphoria over these positions quickly leveled out. After the poor performance on Writer’s Access test, similarly designed like that of Writer’s Relief, and the realization that JFW was as site similar to that of Academia-Research and EssayWriters, made me rethink a lot of issues. At this time, my application was still pending.

With JFW, my profile stated that there was to have been no work done on nights or weekends. Last-minute papers were out also, mainly because of an unpredictable laptop now that Windows XP went out of service April 8. Since that time my laptop got testy. It cut of twice in the last two weeks. All of a sudden, while on line, a blue screen would pop up and my computer would restart. Whatever my task was would be lost.

The Bible said:

Jeremiah 29:11
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (NIV)

Trying to market myself by asking people for help with finding a job only got me politely referred to the local state run agency. Later, during one of my visits to Work Services Job Club, my discovery was that that these referrals were an easy out. One of my family friends suggested asking my own friends for stuff like that. In other words, it wasn’t their job to help me find work even though they had connections. One friend told me they didn’t believe that special needs people should’ve been working with them.

It’s not my being afraid of asking for help finding jobs, it’s the fact that most of the people in my Sunday School Department were retired or about to retire. At least two have bought up the Work Services option, not as an easy out but as an option like it hadn’t been heard of before. This happened out in the community also. Sometime nothing was said by me at all. In spite of their way out that’s sought, getting programs thrown in my face was an offense. The indirect approach would’ve been better.

All wasn’t lost yet. There was a way to promote myself a little further by asking to have people’s businesses advertise on my Google blog. That way, they could refer others and pay me for “getting the word out” There were ways of working around people that for whatever reason didn’t want to help me out. This might be one of them. It sure beat whining or getting angry about opposition.

The Bible said:

Zechariah 8:15

15 “so now I have determined to do good again to Jerusalem and Judah  Do not be afraid. (NIV)

My uncle recommended checking into Civil Service. One of the people in my Sunday School Department recommended advertising on my Google blog. Maybe there would be a subtle way to let them allow me to feature them on the site. While they didn’t quite understand my plight, they gave me something to check into. That way, the state-run agencies would be avoided.


Faith in Action: The under one hour five-step dinner plan

Faith in Action: The under one hour five-step dinner plan

This had to be reprinted becuse it was too good not to put here

Ok, its dinner time. Nothing was thawed. No one wanted what was in the fridge. Pizza night was two nights away and fish was eaten previously. A favorite show came on in an hour. One must have had faith. Don’t panic because, there’s a solution. Below was an Under one-hour five-step dinner plan that would’ve fed even the hungriest of people.

Hebrews 11:1 said (NIV):

11 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.


  • ¼ cup of elbow macaroni, or favorite pasta
  • ¼ cup of broccoli pieces, or favorite vegetables
  • Small piece of cut meat, or prepared
  • Three tablespoons of cheese


  1. Boil, on medium to medium-high heat in a two-quart saucepan, ¼ cup of elbow macaroni or a favorite pasta. Drain and return to saucepan
  2. Boil, on medium to medium-high heat in a two quart sauce pan, ¼ cup of broccoli pieces or a favorite vegetable. Drain and add to the macaroni
  3. Heat, a small piece of cut turkey, 2 minutes and 30 seconds in the microwave from frozen, or along with prepared meat and ½ cup of cheese sauce. Add to the macaroni vegetable mixture
  4. Heat on medium to medium-high heat until coated with cheese
  5. Carefully pour into a medium cereal bowl and enjoy. Served one.

Matthew 17:19-21 said (KJV):

19 Then came the disciples to Jesus apart, and said, Why could not we cast him out?

20 And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.

21 Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.

This was tried by me last week and it worked All was done in under an hour. “Family Guy” came on at seven o’clock on TBS on Mondays and Thursdays, which was enjoyed by me while eating dinner.


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